Of all the signs in the zodiac, there are few more maligned or misunderstood than Scorpio. The most powerful sign in the zodiac, Scorpio loves hard and holds on tight. They won’t settle for less than soul-baring, blood-letting intensity and will go to great lengths to preserve the sanctity of their relationships. Goldendoodles, they ain’t.
Loving a Scorpio is not for the flippant or the faint of heart, made evident in the fact that Google searches for “how to love a Scorpio” have jumped 359% in the past month. November also plays host to Married to a Scorpio Support Day, celebrated (or commiserated) on November 18.
### Dating a Scorpio
Magnetic AF, Scorpio folk are ruled by Pluto, the planet of intensity and intimacy, death and transformation. “Scorpios never do anything halfway, especially love. A Scorpio lover can be passionate, loyal, and incredibly emotionally intelligent, but also deeply private, territorial, and intense,” Ashley Boyd, astrologer at Gamblizard, told The Post.
She notes that Scorpios form relationships through observation, loyalty tests, and low-key trauma bonding. Scorpios have excellent instincts and can make others feel “seen” in ways that may be both transcendent and terrifying. “Scorpios get along best with signs that communicate emotional depth and stay grounded when situations get heated,” said Boyd.
She notes that fellow water signs Cancer and Pisces can recognize the feelings of a Scorpio without needing to vocalize or analyze them.
### Scorpio Relationship Compatibility
Meanwhile, Virgos and Capricorns come correct with the patience and calm that Scorpios need and struggle to generate on their own. “These partners do not attempt to change or explain them; they allow space for Scorpios’ transformation and growth into maturity. When Scorpio feels love is safe, they can show the deepest loyalty.”
To the haters and detractors, I point to Elizabeth Taylor’s epic response when asked whether she would marry her long-dead Scorpio ex-husband, Richard Burton, a third time: “In a heartbeat!”
Read on for advice on how to wrangle yourself a Scorpio, and remember, if they’re too much for you, you’ll never be enough for them.
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### Give Their Privacy a Sacred Status
While we all contain multitudes, Scorpios prefer to keep theirs stowed away from the light of day and the eyes of others. “Scorpios protect their inner world with great care. They require space and time to understand their emotions before they can express them to others. When you respect that boundary, they feel safe enough to open up on their own terms,” shared Boyd.
She notes that you should **never** press a Scorpio to reveal their feelings, motives, or explain their actions. “The more you allow them to keep parts of themselves protected, the more willingly they will reveal their true heart and depth behind that poker face.”
Much like secrets, space is something a Scorpio demands but struggles to deliver. They often expect their partners to be at their beck and call (and if you’re not, they’ll assume you’re dead or cheating) while they themselves enjoy long stretches of freezing you the f**k out.
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### Handle Intensity with Emotional Grounding
“A Scorpio experiences emotional depth in a powerful way, which leads to sudden changes in their emotional state. They need a partner who does not match their storms but steadies them,” explained Boyd.
She shared that the best way to weather this emotional weather is to stay composed and create a feeling of security for them. “Speak slowly, listen fully, and avoid reacting impulsively.”
Showing a Scorpio that you can hold space for their emotions while controlling your own is the ultimate test of love.
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### Pass Their Loyalty Tests
Boyd notes that Scorpios are (whisper voice) always watching and put more stock in actions than words — bedrock over sweet talk, if you will. “They pay attention to whether you are consistent, how you speak about others, and what you do when they are not around. Their observations don’t stem from a need to control but rather from a need to know they are emotionally secure.”
She shared that the best way to build trust with a Scorpio is to be true to your word, reliable in your actions, and honest in your communications. “They have a strong ability to notice when people gossip or tell half-truths. When your words and behavior align for a good length of time, the Scorpio will lower their guard.”
In the genius words of astrologer Spence Taylor, “The Scorpio sees trust like car insurance; it constantly needs to be renewed.” Earning the trust of a Scorpio is thus not a long-term goal but a daily crucible — think Sisyphus and the stone: never done and never quite enough.
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### Unified Exploration
“Scorpios serve as representatives of transformation,” said Boyd. In kind, Scorpios require partners who can go deep, support their growth, and develop alongside them.
“View change as a unified exploration that replaces the current fear-based understanding. As a team, you should advance together through all significant life changes and challenges both within and beyond the relationship.”
When growth is mutual, a Scorpio’s love is every bit the steady, renewable resource.
https://nypost.com/astrology/how-to-love-a-scorpio-without-getting-burned-hexed-or-left-for-dead/